In our journey through life, navigating emotions can often feel overwhelming, sometimes feeling like it is always just one... after another... Yet, amidst the storm, there are moments—glimmers—where we find solace, resilience, and connection. This concept was coined by Deb Dana, whose work explored the nervous system and how it influences our emotional landscapes. A lot of us are familiar with the term "triggers" which describes experiences that make you feel anxious or withdrawn. But have you ever heard of "glimmers"?

What are "Glimmers"?

Deb Dana, a clinician, consultant, and author renowned for her work in the field of trauma therapy, introduces the concept of "glimmers" as pivotal moments of emotional resilience. These are not just fleeting moments of joy or relief, but rather profound instances where our nervous system signals safety, connection, and well-being. In her book and teachings, Dana invites us to recognise and cultivate these glimmers as essential anchors in our emotional journey.

Understanding the Polyvagal Theory

Central to the exploration of glimmers is the Polyvagal Theory, pioneered by Dr. Stephen Porges. This theory highlights how our autonomic nervous system regulates our responses to stress and safety cues. At the heart of this theory is the vagus nerve, which plays a crucial role in our ability to connect, trust, and feel safe in our environment.

Our nervous system is constantly assessing our surroundings, seeking cues of safety or danger. For example, encountering a dog chasing us triggers a physiological and psychological response geared towards survival, activating our fight or flight response. This helps us react quickly and effectively in threatening situations, ensuring our safety and well-being.

Conversely, when we experience moments of connection, understanding, or affirmation—glimmers—it signals to our nervous system that we are safe. This, in turn, allows us to relax, engage authentically with others, and contribute to emotional resilience.

Cultivating Glimmers in Daily Life

Incorporating glimmers into our daily lives involves an active and conscious effort to recognise and nurture moments of connection and safety:

Mindful Awareness: Practice mindfulness to tune into your body's responses and emotional cues. Notice moments when you feel calm, connected, or at ease.
Social Engagement: Foster relationships that bring you joy, understanding, and a sense of belonging. These connections serve as powerful glimmers that affirm safety and support.
Self-Compassion: Embrace self-compassion as you navigate challenges. Recognize your efforts, strengths, and resilience, even in moments of difficulty.
Body Awareness: Pay attention to how your body responds to different situations. Practices like yoga, meditation, or deep breathing can support getting to know your physical responses and nervous system regulation.

Embracing Resilience and Connection

In essence, Deb Dana's concept of "glimmers" invites us to cultivate resilience and connection by honoring the signals of safety and well-being within us. By understanding how our nervous system responds to our environment, we can consciously seek out and nurture these moments of emotional grounding and connection.

As we navigate life's challenges and celebrate our wins, let us remember to cherish the glimmers—the moments that remind us of our capacity for resilience, connection, and growth. By doing so, we not only enhance our emotional well-being but also foster a deeper sense of authenticity and fulfillment in our relationships and daily experiences.

I invite you to ponder on what your glimmer moments look like this week…